Yesterday I read an article about the many ways husbands can reset their wives. It was such a great article I saved it to send to Tyler ;). But this week he’s been in another state at a work conference and this mom needed to be RESET! So I had to get creative in order to keep myself from losing my sanity. I realized the list I came up was filled with little things I could do everyday for myself, or at least 3 times a week. And it’s something I want to share with you because I think we all struggle with giving too much until our box is empty. I was literally just talking to a friend about this, and she expressed her frustration with giving or doing for everyone else, and not leaving a bit of time/energy for herself. Well mommas, it’s time to start taking a bit back. So here’s a list of little things you can do on a daily basis that help reset that bad mood, or exhausted state!
Start your morning with exercise
This is one I have to constantly push and remind myself to do. Exercise has always played a large role in my postpartum depression recovery, but lately I’ve been slacking. Life just seems to get in the way, or I stay up too late and don’t feel the urge to lug everything to the park. I’m constantly using the excuse that I’m too tired or A is cranky, even though I know going to the park for a run will benefit the both of us. We have a local park a few miles away that has a lovely trail, perfect for the jogging stroller. I usually tackle my run and then let A get all her energy out on the playground. Truth be told, this helps reset the both of us…and it sure does help when nap time rolls around ;).
Phone a friend
You know that friend I talked about earlier? Well her and I constantly video chat on an app called Marco Polo! Whenever things get to be too much I just vent to her and let it all out. Sometimes just speaking the words can help makes me feel better. I don’t know about you but I love having someone who can relate. I’ll tell her about a certain situation and her response is always, “Girl, I know what you mean.” It’s always nice to get a new perspective on things. When I focus on a certain situation so much it’s hard to see a different side to he world around you. But friends are always there to pull you back and remind you of what else you have going on.
Wine or beer
I feel like I don’t need to explain this one, but I will. I’m a craft beer junkie, and at the end of the week I like to try a new beer or some local wine with Tyler. Whether it’s alcohol or doctor pepper, just sitting for a few minutes to enjoy something you love can give you that added boost to get through the rest of the night. This can also turn into a fun activity with your significant other!
Call your mom
(or a motherly figure in your life)
I probably call my mother at least 3 times a day. And truthfully, we never had a great relationship before A, but as time goes on I realize we are more alike than I thought. She’s been through everything I’m currently going through, and she knows what I need to hear. My mom is my safe place, my voice of reason, and she’s really the glue that keeps it all together. We may not always agree on everything, but she alway listens. Sometimes just hearing her voice brings me such a rush of comfort.
Bath time isn’t just for kids
Who else still indulges in a warm bath? When I can’t sneak away I’ll stay up late just to sit in a relaxing tub with some bath salts, wine, candles, and bubbles. Just talking about it makes me want to go start the tub. Even a shower can get the job done. Just twenty minutes without someone touching, asking, or yelling for you is like a mini vacation.
When in doubt, GO TO TARGET!
Hopefully there will always be a target that moms can run to with messy buns and Starbucks in hand. People knock it but I swear that store has magical powers over moms ;). Target is my guilty pleasure, and window shopp-ok lets be real no one window shops at Target. Buying random dollar section items, or a decorative rug for the porch that we didn’t need just brings me so much freaking joy.
Is there something I forgot? What helps you reset when life just becomes a bit overwhelming? I’d love to here what you do for yourself!