I have four amazing online mom friends who I speak to almost everyday. Getting down to that small group of women is a long story, so I’ll try to keep it short and sweet. When I was pregnant with A I used the babycenter app. I frequently visited their forums and even asked a few questions. Eventually a Facebook group was started, and thus began my adventure into finding mom friends online.
Much like online dating this experience was…eventful. The group started with about 300 women who all had babies sometime in or around the month of May. As you might assume, drama ensued and the group dwindled down to about 60 of us. This group lasted for quite some time. We would post about our days, the kids, fun events, and our daily struggles. We even did a few Holiday and Birthday exchanges. It was a group of women who all needed each other in some way, shape, or form. This group helped me during my most vulnerable point of postpartum depression. Some of us even met each other in person. But over time the group has parted ways.
To the women I have remained close with,
You are my saving grace! Thank you for putting up with this hot mess for the past (almost) two years. You ladies have gotten me through the roughest point of my life and you continue to help me. I can’t even begin to imagine what my journey into motherhood would have looked like without you. We may never meet in person, but I’m so thankful our paths have crossed. It has been a joy learning about you and your families. You ladies get it. You listen and give me your honest opinion. You’ve helped me realize I’m a great mom even when all I do is the basics. My whole world has changed but you ladies have helped me embrace the change. I love you ladies and your littles 🙂
My advice to new moms is to find some online friends, because you will lose a lot of people in your life once you have a child.
And your friends without kids won’t always get it.
Your local mom friends will be busy from time to time, and I can say from experience it is amazing to have people who are only a click away.
You might not get along with the moms in your area.
Finding other moms like yourself can sometimes be easier online.
Convenience is not always a bad thing, especially in this case.
Your best friend might not live in the same town, be the same age as you, or have a child your age.
Once you find these friends, hold on to them. Try to remember that people come from all walks of life, and every family is different. What works for you doesn’t always work for someone else. Building others up will always bring you more joy than tearing them down. Realize when a situation isn’t working and walk away.